Guilt

As a separate continuation to the procrastination thread, I wanted to start a thread about guilt.
There is a number of things that I feel guilty about daily, not doing enough, not being a good enough parent, not using my time wiser, not living in the moment, things from the past, things about future and so on... They may not even be conscious thoughts, it might just be some nagging feeling in the background or the guilt may have translated into fears or negative beliefs. So how do you think guilt affects us and how does it affect the ability to manifest? How do you think we should dissolve guilt?

Below are some passages I am typing out from Bashar's book "Blueprint for Change".

• Guilt is many times the primary ingredient, the primary symbol, to allow you to prevent yourselves from creating in your lives what you prefer, what you desire, and what you know deep within you is what you deserve to experience in your lives.
  

• Guilt is what will always perpetuate limitation, always perpetuate separation. It keeps you from recognizing your own self empowerment and your own connection to the infinite creation.
  

• While many of you assume that the hate is the opposite of love, it is actually guilt that is the true opposite of love. For love is complete and utter self-worthiness and creativity, while guilt is the belief in lack of self-worth, it stiffles creativity.
  

• When you do not believe you are connected, you thus do not believe that you can create things you desire in your lives with great ease and effortlessness, and things become worthless to you if you don't create suffering in order to get them.
  
  

I love this topic

Here's a post on guilt from the Shambhala Buddhist perspective: https://lecafe.forumotion.com/t113-shambhala#1366

Guilt is such a pointless emotion, yet its something ingrained in us as we grow up, i see it as a learnt behaviour, we spend so much time as kids being told this is wrong that is wrong, cant believe you did that etc... we automatically form these morals and beliefs and apply them to everything

so instead of having a parent chastising us, we allow our internal dialogue to do it instead

i'm always beating myself up or feeling guilty over something, am  i a good parent?, friend?, should i stick up for myself?.. should i be calmer?, did i just upset someone?... and for what? because i didnt live up to some illogical ideal or standard i've set myself because someone else decided thats how you should be, or how you should live?

its so unwarranted and needless.. i mean whats it going to change? whatevers done is done...   i either ate the last piece of cake whilst dieting or i snapped at someone and offended them or whatever it was .. feeling guilty wont change that... apologising or accepting or forgiving will move on from it

but no we dont like to do that do we... we like to mentally torture ourselves *bangs head on desk*

P.s this might help....

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2007/11/27/5-tips-for-dealing-with-guilt/

If I teach you, therefore, that your nature is evil, that you should go home and sit in sackcloth and ashes and weep your lives out because you took certain false steps, it will not help you, but will weaken you all the more, and I shall be showing you the road to more evil than good.

If this room is full of darkness for thousands of years and you come in and begin to weep and wail, "Oh the darkness", will the darkness vanish? Strike a match and light comes in a moment. What good will it do you to think all your lives, "Oh, I have done evil, I have made many mistakes"? It requires no ghost to tell us that.

Bring in the light and the evil goes in a moment. Build up your character, and manifest your real nature, the Effulgent, the Resplendent, the Ever-Pure, and call It up in everyone that you see.

I wish that everyone of us had come to such a state that even in the vilest of human beings we could see the Real Self within, and instead of condemning them, say, "Rise thou effulgent one, rise thou who art always pure, rise thou birthless and deathless, rise almighty, and manifest thy true nature. These little manifestations do not befit thee."

This is the highest prayer that the Advaita teaches. This is the one prayer, to remember our true nature, the God who is always within us, thinking of it always as infinite, almighty, ever-good, ever-beneficent, selfless, bereft of all limitations. And because that nature is selfless, it is strong and fearless; for only to selfishness comes fear. He who has nothing to desire for himself, whom does he fear, and what can frighten him? What fear has death for him? What fear has evil for him? So if we are Advaitists, we must think from this moment that our old self is dead and gone.

- Swami Vivekananda, Practical Vedanta (London, 18th November 1896)

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