The Homeless Life Coach

Thanks Night!

Lunar always has the most amazing insights!

It's so true about the conflicting ideas out there. On one hand it's been said that since none of the "teachers" out there have reached "an elite level of success" (as defined by whoever...) that their advice isn't worth considering.

At the same time, these same people dismiss those "teachers" as being frauds and charlatans and "pornstars" just trying to make some money off of gullible chumps so their advice isn't worth considering.

I've seen people claim that Abe is a fraud because Jerry Hicks died. So for some people you should not only be able to manifest money from thin air no problem but if you die that's proof that you're a fraud. You just can't win with them, and that's why you shouldn't even bother trying to win with them.

The reality is that a life coach can help transform someone's life. To me, the time spent on that endeavor is definitely worth compensation.

At the same time, I don't think having other sources of income, especially ones that bring you joy, to help pay the bills is a conflict either.

I definitely think that being there yourself, personally experiencing the lows, gives insights and the ability to empathize with others. I have witnessed personally that those who have been thru struggles themselves are the most motivated to want to help others.

Thanks kazoo

Part of my gap was that I wanted to be perfect in order to be an example, but we are human after all, so the best example I can be is a work in progress with more confidence in 'I' and the the nature of the universe itself. My 'I AM's are certainly part if the root of where I am right now. As is true for everyone in every moment. I feel it transforming as I'm pretty well-practiced in not facing reality

Thank you for taking the time to support me with your input

Hi everyone!!!!

Thought I'd pop in for a quick update, since I am on a PC now for the first time in a week.

I don't know where I'm going in the next few days, still waiting for my security deposit from the old landlord, and got down yesterday. I am mostly quite happy in my own thoughts. I went out yesterday (four years since my bf and I started seeing each other officially) and it made me a bit bitter to see others out eating at restaurants and having fun. I wasn't the best company I suppose- we walked around and then I cried about having to choose eating out that night or keeping the funds for groceries for the next few days.

I got angry because I got a taste again of that feeling of having to choose, and I hated it. I hate that I have had to choose between this or that, food or rent, gas or food, etc. I KNOW that is not the way it is. I KNOW that this is a lack mindset but I felt to enslaved to it- so suffocated by it. WHY have I always put myself in a place of having to choose? Why can't I have this and that? I can have this and that... but I didn't feel like it, and passing by watching others through windows enjoying their Friday night was sad because while I generally can enjoy myself wherever I am, even doing not much- this time I was jealous and angry and it made me more upset because I know it meant that I was not aligned with those things. In that moment, I couldn't feel very good about those who had what I wanted right then.

Anyway, aside from that... I've been staying focused enough for my dad to think I'm strangely optimistic. The waiting just got to me yesterday- I felt like I have been searching for part time work, for clients, for apartments- but all the while it's this waiting feeling that sort of overstayed its welcome in my opinion. Waiting without shifting vibrational alignment is not really progressive, so I've been more open to imagining. I pulled out Murphy's Your Infinite Power to be Rich. I've been going back to some bookmarked parts and letting myself dwell in the simple processes.

I know last night was a small setback, because before that, both of us have been feeling a shift in our overall self concept. We do have some sources of money that have been delayed for one reason or another, but we haven't been feeling sorry for ourselves and are much better at replacing the feeling of hopelessness or panic with focus and consistently offering positive expectation.

There is so much more I want to say, but this isn't really the platform for it- I will probably be blogging about this and also likely will be putting this into some kind of (e)book one day.

Thank you all for your support and for being as crazy as I am to believe that pure wealth can easily appear where poverty seems to exist.

Here's today's vid if anyone wants to watch

https://youtu.be/D6pz0bxD-90

… We walked around and then I cried about having to choose eating out that night or keeping the funds for groceries for the next few days.

You reminded me of a very old memory, when I once had to choose: either get myself a decent dinner, or buy a used yet very rare edition of Karl Marx's Capital. I never forgot that night because it was the first choice of this kind in my life (or perhaps because I was really starving. lol. Marx won, needless to say). Besides, I was a stranger, in a very cold city, so I felt terribly lonely on that faraway winter night. But back then my father home would always say: Keep your fortune where neither thieves can reach it nor bugs can eat it: in your head. That was one of his favorite teachings. So yes, Marx had to win over hunger, and I was finally glad of my rare "Capital." But I also hated having had to choose, especially between two types of food, so much that I decided that should never happen again. Literally from that night on I took every measure to guarantee that would never ever happen again. "Next time," I decided, "I will have enough to get both the dinner AND the Capital." However, because I hated it so much, it did happen again—and again, and again. And when it did, I was deeply surprised, even shocked. But it took me at least 10 more years—and 10 thousand more books, teachers and experiences—before I could finally figure it all out. Yes, I was clever enough not to "resist" it consciously. But I still harbored a "fear" of it in my unconscious and I wasn't so clever as to also find out about that hidden fear inside—which remained always there like a "hole" in my energy structure.


So I can relate, coach. But, I didn't cry. Why did you cry? Because, I think, you felt sorry for yourself. You felt like you deserved better than that. At least, you deserved to be just like everyone else—all those having fun, and dinner, all around you. Worse, your distress has been all along at least twice as much as anyone else's would be, were they in the same situation, because unlike anyone else, you're a LOA coach and expert. This is your field and job. You're even an author of a very good and inspiring book on the subject. So right from the beginning, I believe, you were deeply struck and taken aback by the contradiction. You couldn't fully "reason" it, let alone accept it. It was like a sudden, totally improbable scene in an absurdist farce or a surreal play. The contradiction was so severe and stressful that you, of all possibilities, chose to highlight it as the title of the whole thread, "The Homeless Life Coach."

I KNOW that is not the way it is. I KNOW that this is a lack mindset but I felt to [be] enslaved to it- so suffocated by it. WHY have I always put myself in a place of having to choose? Why can't I have this and that? I can have this and that... but I didn't feel like it, and passing by watching others through windows enjoying their Friday night was sad because while I generally can enjoy myself wherever I am, even doing not much- this time I was jealous and angry and…


And, because you know better, you inevitably moved from self-pity to self-blame, very subtly though. You've been trained well and are too wise to fall in this trap. But you were almost there:

… and it made me more upset because I know it meant that I was not aligned with those things.


So, given what just happened yesterday, also given that primary, painful contradiction, something must've gone terribly wrong here. What was it?

In my opinion, you take yourself too damn seriously, my friend. That lady who had to choose on that Friday night was NOT you. That was only your doll or avatar in a gigantic, universal game. But you took it too seriously, because you fully identified with it—to the point that you totally forgot who you really were, thus felt sorry for "yourself," even suffocated and cried. And because you know better, your own contradictions remained very subtle, almost unnoticeable. For example:

Why can't I have this and that? I can have this and that... but I didn't feel like it...

Who's talking here? Who is this really who "can have this and that"? Obviously you can not have this and that. If you could, why didn't you get this and that? If you couldn't, why did you write this sentence above? Another example:

… while I generally can enjoy myself wherever I am, even doing not much- this time I was jealous and angry…

No you cannot. You "generally can enjoy yourself" only as a "defense mechanism" or as a "coping strategy," not because you can truly and genuinely enjoy yourself. Please excuse me I'm taking your words literally here because they're very expressive in this context. You cannot really enjoy yourself so long as you don't know yourself yet. When you get to know yourself, you'll then enjoy it, and your earlier statement above will be perfectly sound: "I can have this and that." Yes, of course "YOU" can. But if such is the case; if you really know who you are, you'll never, ever feel sorry for yourself, will you? You'll never particularly feel jealous. Aware who "you" are, aware what "you" can really do and accomplish, identifying with your true Self not with your temporary doll, you cannot ever feel jealous or angry or even sad. The whole world, then, is your own mind. Everything in the world, including you and your boyfriend and all those dining out and having fun on that Friday night—including even the restaurant and the Friday night—is but thoughts and ideas, literally, in your own mind.


So maybe, just maybe, the moral of your story is that you/we have to come closer and know better who you really are. Either way, in the end, I'm sure you're fully aware of all that I just wrote, coach; so please excuse me for repeating it. It's just a reminder that we all need from time to time, especially when our little avatars here happen to go through such seemingly bad circumstances. Namaste my dear, take care and have a great day.

Oh my goodness. It all went away again. I wrote a HUGE reply. I learned much from responding to your post, Lotus, and yet it is all gone so you can't read it. Oh my goodness I spent an hour writing

*Sigh*
Well, it included all kinds of great things like a reference to when you had posted Kate Winslet in character then Kate Winslet beside that during the acceptance of the reward. I certainly took myself too seriously. I certainly intend to be more playful at this game of life. I certainly choose now to be more conscious of the avatar concept. I absolutely felt pity for myself because I was looking at myself as that circumstance and used it to define who I was in that moment. Of course I should know better and of course that made it harder to experience.

It is my avatar that thought it cannot have this and that. My conscious and subconscious mind were not in agreement about what is good and acceptable. I thought having it all removes the acceptance of some people who previously liked me, and that is certainly true. We see how well-paid individuals get sarcastically judged by even some who we often consider virtuous and wise. But we know past that. We know that is only a refection of their own dissatisfaction of their own pay.

This single line is one that may have started a cycle for you, but may be the end of my own:
"Next time," I decided, "I will have enough to get both the dinner AND the Capital."
As much as I had been trying to assume the feeling state of the desired experience, I did not say those words to myself because I did not believe them... but today, when I read them as you wrote them - simple and clear - it looks as natural as the sunshine to me. I appreciate the story you shared and I know it has helped me already.

Thank you all for your wonderful coaching and I will be back with some more to say about your lovely insight. I must now check on the laundry and leave the house.

Hi all, back for more.

No you cannot. You "generally can enjoy yourself" only as a "defense mechanism" or as a "coping strategy," not because you can truly and genuinely enjoy yourself. Please excuse me I'm taking your words literally here because they're very expressive in this context. You cannot really enjoy yourself so long as you don't know yourself yet.

I'm not sure I agree with this. In writing it, that may certainly be a defense mechanism for the moment, but I really do usually enjoy myself. Or if I do not know myself yet, then I enjoy the moment.

What is true about that though is that if I entirely enjoyed without any reservation, then I would now be living abundantly in all reflections, including finances. In some reality, I am. It simply isn't the one I had been perceiving.

I'm not sure I agree with this.

I'm not sure I agree with it either. I wasn't "stating facts," ma'am; but just thinking what might have gone wrong. My post, therefore, followed a strictly scientific approach and was replete of such phrases and words as "I think," "I believe," "In my opinion," "Perhaps," "Maybe, just maybe," etc. After all I was talking to a coach here, not a beginner. So, girl, drop your defenses.

In writing it, that may certainly be a defense mechanism for the moment, but I really do usually enjoy myself. Or if I do not know myself yet, then I enjoy the moment.

This is the point. I'm not after "enjoyment" at all. So you may call it the "moment" or whatever you want. What I was talking about, or at least implying, was rather the "realization" of your true self, not "enjoying" it. The constant "awareness" of your true self, regardless of the fact that "enjoying" it is a certain consequence of this awareness.

In other words, while some may be seeking "enjoyment," others are mainly seeking "truth." I'm aware of your approach in LOA and how heavily you depend on positive "good feelings" and the resultant "high vibrations." Enjoyment in this approach, therefore, might turn to be itself the target, or a target, consciously or not so consciously. All you really need is to make sure this enjoyment or "feeling good" is true and genuine. In my approach, on the other hand, enjoyment is not the target, but a by-product. The target is to "realize" your true Self. This will not only give you the desired enjoyment, indeed much more than enjoyment; this is also the only way I know of that will protect you from "relapsing," falling back into weakness or helplessness, or "feeling sorry" for yourself as happened on that Friday night. In my opinion, only then will your enjoyment be true and genuine, therefore "lasting."

What is true about that though is that if I entirely enjoyed without any reservation, then I would now be living abundantly in all reflections, including finances. In some reality, I am. It simply isn't the one I had been perceiving.

See? This is your approach. Sound, but tricky and unstable so long as you think from the avatar's point of view. Even the assumption that you can "enjoy without any reservation" is unrealistic, because reality is based on polarity, conditioned by duality, and everything therefore is always moving in cycles—day and night, power and weakness, abundance and lack, happiness and misery, etc. You therefore cannot be "enjoying" all the time, let alone "without any reservation."

In my approach, we rather start with "untying," at least partially, the knot between YOU, Infinite Awareness, and the "avatar" you "seem" to be attached to—the avatar mired in "duality" and subject to "the cycles." When you realize your true self, you actually ascend the entire polarity of the world and go far beyond every duality. Your avatar, then, is like any other avatar. There is absolutely no difference whatsoever between "the body" you call Armine and "the other body" you know as, say, Night. Both are two manifestations in the mind. Mere temporary "appearances." Nothing but fleeting projections on the screen.

Therefore:

In some reality, I am. It simply isn't the one I had been perceiving.

No, you've been perceiving it all along, but been also misidentifying yourself, oblivious to who you really are. YOU are simply in everyone, the rich and the poor, my friend. Every wealth on this earth is indeed yours. YOU are its very reason. YOU are literally wealthy beyond comprehension, ma'am. Even those dining out and having fun on that Friday night were YOU. All of them were YOU and YOU were in all of them—their very being, awareness and life. Their very I-AMness. YOU are not even here on this planet, YOU are universal, my lady, even beyond both space and time. Can you see—nay, just have a glimpse of—who you really are?

How is everything with you Simplifier?

Of late, didn't get a chance to keep up with any of the internet forums.

Just wanted to check in!

Are you "domesticated" again?

I was just wondering the same thing. Hope all is going wel Armine.

Below are quotes of Armine's most recent updates for those who may have missed them (I hope you don't mind me calling you Armine on here?)

The Simplifier wrote:Here's today's vid if anyone wants to watch

https://youtu.be/D6pz0bxD-90

The Simplifier wrote:Hi everyone!!!!

Thought I'd pop in for a quick update, since I am on a PC now for the first time in a week.  

I don't know where I'm going in the next few days, still waiting for my security deposit from the old landlord, and got down yesterday.  I am mostly quite happy in my own thoughts.  I went out yesterday (four years since my bf and I started seeing each other officially) and it made me a bit bitter to see others out eating at restaurants and having fun.  I wasn't the best company I suppose- we walked around and then I cried about having to choose eating out that night or keeping the funds for groceries for the next few days.

I got angry because I got a taste again of that feeling of having to choose, and I hated it.  I hate that I have had to choose between this or that, food or rent, gas or food, etc.  I KNOW that is not the way it is.  I KNOW that this is a lack mindset but I felt to enslaved to it- so suffocated by it.  WHY have I always put myself in a place of having to choose?  Why can't I have this and that?  I can have this and that... but I didn't feel like it, and passing by watching others through windows enjoying their Friday night was sad because while I generally can enjoy myself wherever I am, even doing not much- this time I was jealous and angry and it made me more upset because I know it meant that I was not aligned with those things.  In that moment, I couldn't feel very good about those who had what I wanted right then.  

Anyway, aside from that... I've been staying focused enough for my dad to think I'm strangely optimistic.  The waiting just got to me yesterday- I felt like I have been searching for part time work, for clients, for apartments- but all the while it's this waiting feeling that sort of overstayed its welcome in my opinion.  Waiting without shifting vibrational alignment is not really progressive, so I've been more open to imagining.  I pulled out Murphy's Your Infinite Power to be Rich.  I've been going back to some bookmarked parts and letting myself dwell in the simple processes.

I know last night was a small setback, because before that, both of us have been feeling a shift in our overall self concept.  We do have some sources of money that have been delayed for one reason or another, but we haven't been feeling sorry for ourselves and are much better at replacing the feeling of hopelessness or panic with focus and consistently offering positive expectation.

There is so much more I want to say, but this isn't really the platform for it- I will probably be blogging about this and also likely will be putting this into some kind of (e)book one day.  

Thank you all for your support and for being as crazy as I am to believe that pure wealth can easily appear where poverty seems to exist.





   

Thanks Adi for asking and thanks posay for answering

It's been about 3 1/2 weeks now and I received my security deposit back yesterday after reminding the old landlord to return it. Of $1000 of my money that he was holding, he took out $775 worth of charges that were mostly seemingly out of thin air and one or two just unreasonable. That was the money I was going to use to move to my own place in the next couple days.

The old me would have been upset and taken the 225, but I knew I didn't want to do that.... so after talking openly to the guy, he seemed like he really pulled numbers out of thin air. They can't make their mortgage comfortably apparently, so I suspect he tried to take advantage of the situation.

Luckily, there is a ruling that says if the deposit is not returned with 21 days, the landlord loses the right to make deductions.

Adi, I think you can understand why I was really, really tempted to take the check to him and tell him to keep the "remainder". I felt like I don't need to be depending on his returning my own money. I felt sorry for him because he feels they need to make things up and try to get away with that when they themselves said I was a good tenant and they know I left the place super clean. I wanted to throw the $225 in his face and write a shame letter and warn his new tenants to protect their rights by documenting everything.

Well, after not sleeping all night, I decided to send a demand letter for the $775 owed to me or I will go to small claims court for the balance and possibly additional punitive damages. Partly bc he is acting on bad faith and partly because I feel the next guy deserves a more fair experience when it's time to get theirs back and nothing was really damaged.

I shy away from these things and I asked myself is that "bad energy"... and I am confident it is good energy. Maybe he will return the money right away from a change in heart. Either way, I will write an official letter. I kept saying to myself at first that if I had million dollars I'd give the small check back to him, like he smacked my one cheek and I give him the other cheek to smack. If he wants the money so much, let him have it all. You know? Then, I realized that even if I AM a millionaire, the ethical thing to do would be to accept what he rightfully owes so that he doesn't think it's acceptable to do something crummy like that again. Spiritual or not, it just wouldn't feel right to let him think it's acceptable business practice. I can give the money to fund something charitable if I in fact don't need the money after all.

That's where I am now... what do you guys think?

And thanks to Sunshine too

i think you should get what you're owed sweety, i understand what you're saying but you deserve that money and you have to make sure you tell yourself that

Maybe this is the path that will lead you onto something better Armine - it's good to remember the universe will NOT let you down during times of trouble and to find that strength within yourself. It's tough when you feel like you NEED the money for something important, letting go is hard.

Having said that I think you are right about this guy pulling numbers out of thin air. I think Night Eyes is right, you deserve the money and you MUST believe that.

Keep us updated and let us know you're ok!

I think you did the right thing. There is nothing wrong with standing up for yourself when you are not treated right.

The law exists for a reason. If it's rightfully yours, you're entitled to claim it.

lol look at this little angel

Armine, I can relate to a lot of what you are experiencing. I got ripped off by a landlord a few years ago.

He refused to return any of my security deposit. I knew someone who is a lawyer and asked him to take on the case for me. Well, the lawyer looked the landlord up in the court records system (which may be accessible by the public in your state too) and it turns out my landlord was a real piece of work. Apparently my landlord had already ripped off a lot of creditors and if I took him to court they would just add me to the list of people he owed money to and since those other creditors would have to be paid back before my claim my chances of seeing any money from him were non-existent.

I talked to another lawyer I knew and he pretty much confirmed it and agreed that taking my landlord to court would just be throwing good money (for court costs) after bad and and be a waste of time so I didn't pursue it and basically took a big loss.

Anyway, looking back now I see how this experience fits in with the pattern of resistance I have when it comes to money. I am sure you see the same thing in your situation. You have been able to attract part of what you are owed but I'm sure you see that there is some resistance there that is keeping you from getting what you are due completely.

I'm not sure if that was helpful at all, but at least you know you aren't alone. And actually thinking about the patterns in my own life has been helpful for me. (Now if I just knew how to overcome those patterns!)

Armine, you got this.

Thanks, Adam. Welcome to the community!

It does help, kazoo. It is good to see it that way- that I had more resistance to abundance and only enough ease to allow that bit in. It feels really good to feel the difference between then and now. I feel like channels are open and relaxed.

Thank you Armine

Oh, I hadn't seen this! Brave and strong are indeed words that fail to do justice to the spirit you show in enduring this.



I don't have anything else to add, but - your video shows your beauty - inner and outer - in a way I've never seen before, not on forums or in your book. Thank you for sharing it with us.