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My desire came true, but I have regrets from the past
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My desire came true, but I have regrets from the past
Sorry to post this here...just needed some advice
So I had this guy friend who I was close to once. But because of some mistake I made, we ended up growing apart. We lost contact for awhile, which is when I realized how much I missed him, and I had feelings for him. I got back in touch with him, and a couple of times we made plans to hang out, but the plans always fell through. I tried to use LOA and wait for him to contact me again, but it just wasn't working.
Finally I ended up telling him how I feel. I wasn't even expecting anything, I just wanted to get it off my chest. He said he understands, but the problem is, he doesn't want any serious relationship, only dating. Which for me isn't a problem. Because even to be with him as a friend would be enough for me, so that is even more than I was asking for. He said we should go out one day then and I said okay. I know I should be glad my desire came true, but I keep thinking about how things were in the past. I know our relationship will never be the same as it was in the beginning, and a lot of it is my fault. (the reason why we're not close anymore) I just wished I realized how much he meant to me back then. It is really hard for me to stop thinking about it.
So I had this guy friend who I was close to once. But because of some mistake I made, we ended up growing apart. We lost contact for awhile, which is when I realized how much I missed him, and I had feelings for him. I got back in touch with him, and a couple of times we made plans to hang out, but the plans always fell through. I tried to use LOA and wait for him to contact me again, but it just wasn't working.
Finally I ended up telling him how I feel. I wasn't even expecting anything, I just wanted to get it off my chest. He said he understands, but the problem is, he doesn't want any serious relationship, only dating. Which for me isn't a problem. Because even to be with him as a friend would be enough for me, so that is even more than I was asking for. He said we should go out one day then and I said okay. I know I should be glad my desire came true, but I keep thinking about how things were in the past. I know our relationship will never be the same as it was in the beginning, and a lot of it is my fault. (the reason why we're not close anymore) I just wished I realized how much he meant to me back then. It is really hard for me to stop thinking about it.
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Re: My desire came true, but I have regrets from the past
Hi Roxychick,
Sorry to hear you go through this. At least your desire came true and that's a wonderful thing. I know you're feeling sad about the past. I recommend to just take some time to accept, sooth, and express your sadness like taking a down day, reading your favorite book that makes you feel better, writing it out (short story/poetry), drawing/painting it out, exercising/walking, writing a letter to him (never to be sent) - express your feelings and let your feelings guide you. Take some time to just listen to what your heart is trying to say to you and do what it tells you. You will start to feel better and better and then you will find clarity. Accept how you feel and just do what feels better to you. Over time, it will get easier and easier to feel better and from there you can focus on drawing in more fun and confidence in your life by feeling fun and confident first. This makes it so much easier to visualize the kind of dates you want to go on and really feel the fun of it. Once you feel the fun as if its real now and keep feeling it real now, more fun will come and it can feel just as good as the beginning, maybe even more. As harsh as it is, accept that the past is gone. I've learned that clinging to the past is a recipe for depression. So accept that the past is gone and all you have is now, but it's OK because you know what to do to feel better and focus on what you really want, you can create the fun times again.
Sorry to hear you go through this. At least your desire came true and that's a wonderful thing. I know you're feeling sad about the past. I recommend to just take some time to accept, sooth, and express your sadness like taking a down day, reading your favorite book that makes you feel better, writing it out (short story/poetry), drawing/painting it out, exercising/walking, writing a letter to him (never to be sent) - express your feelings and let your feelings guide you. Take some time to just listen to what your heart is trying to say to you and do what it tells you. You will start to feel better and better and then you will find clarity. Accept how you feel and just do what feels better to you. Over time, it will get easier and easier to feel better and from there you can focus on drawing in more fun and confidence in your life by feeling fun and confident first. This makes it so much easier to visualize the kind of dates you want to go on and really feel the fun of it. Once you feel the fun as if its real now and keep feeling it real now, more fun will come and it can feel just as good as the beginning, maybe even more. As harsh as it is, accept that the past is gone. I've learned that clinging to the past is a recipe for depression. So accept that the past is gone and all you have is now, but it's OK because you know what to do to feel better and focus on what you really want, you can create the fun times again.
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Re: My desire came true, but I have regrets from the past
Beautifully said PR.
To add something to that. Always remember Roxychick that what you see right now is not what is. Nothing is as changeable as reality. So don't give it all your focus. Just keep on focusing on things you do want. I know that's not easy, but then do the things PR suggests. Everybody needs a down day every once in a while. Xxx
To add something to that. Always remember Roxychick that what you see right now is not what is. Nothing is as changeable as reality. So don't give it all your focus. Just keep on focusing on things you do want. I know that's not easy, but then do the things PR suggests. Everybody needs a down day every once in a while. Xxx
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Re: My desire came true, but I have regrets from the past
It can be so hard to forget things we've done in the past can't it Roxy, but theres comes a point where we have to try to accept that its done and its gone.. we cant change whats happened but we can learn and move forward.
this guy is and still wants to interact with you and be a part of something with you, so see that as a gift and focus on that, there's a positive here and you can move forward
give yourself a bit of tlc and forgiveness in this
this guy is and still wants to interact with you and be a part of something with you, so see that as a gift and focus on that, there's a positive here and you can move forward
give yourself a bit of tlc and forgiveness in this
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Re: My desire came true, but I have regrets from the past
Hi Roxychik,
Just remember that in few months you will be feeling much better than you are feeling now..
I have been there and gone through the rough patch..
I am not saying you will get him or someone else as a partner but you will be in a much better position to decide what you want..
When you are depressed and sad your decisions , hunches and intuitions generally backfires.. thats how LOA works !!
This is the time to just, as PR said, sooth yourself and to get yourself to a better feeling place... place from where your hunches and intuitions will speed up the manifestation of your desire!!
Just remember that in few months you will be feeling much better than you are feeling now..
I have been there and gone through the rough patch..
I am not saying you will get him or someone else as a partner but you will be in a much better position to decide what you want..
When you are depressed and sad your decisions , hunches and intuitions generally backfires.. thats how LOA works !!
This is the time to just, as PR said, sooth yourself and to get yourself to a better feeling place... place from where your hunches and intuitions will speed up the manifestation of your desire!!
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